Reaching Difficult Students

The next step is to determine what causes these behaviors. This is not a job for you alone. Talk to counselors and administrators, they may already know something that you don't about this child's life. Often this information is not something they will email to you, but a quick conversation can give you all kinds of insight.

You also can talk to parents about the behavior, but I would urge you to find out as much as possible prior to this conversation. Most parents want to help their child, but sometimes they are the issue, so be cautious with your approach. All of this information makes it easier to understand “that kid” and to create a better relationship with them.

And that’s the key—you need to create a relationship with “that kid.” Talk to him or her, one on one, face to face, but not when either or both of you are frustrated or upset. A simple “I feel like you are struggling to sit through class, what can I do to help?” can start a meaningful conversation. And don't leave it at just one conversation. Later, ask follow-up questions (“Is this helping?”).

“That kid” struggles with relationships; the more you can do to build one, the more you are helping them long term.

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Hilary Richardson, a member of the Jefferson County Education Association, has taught U.S. history and government at Bear Creek High School in Jefferson County, Colo., since 2004.